Sunday, December 11, 2016

This Is How I Remember Him...


Many years ago, when Bryans Road was a hamlet, barely a whistle stop on the way to the bigger, more important town of Indian Head.  I lived in a small neighborhood called South Hampton Village.  It was the early 1960s, the side roads were barely paved, the shoulders were dirt, people mowed their own lawns and dogs ran freely from yard to yard. 

The house across from the Davies was for sale and word was that a young couple had bought it – a beautiful woman and a dark, handsome man who was some kind of dentist.  I imagine my parents’ conversation going something like this:

“He’s a Dentist?"   “Yes.”  “You mean a Dentist, Dentist?”  “YES!”

For you see, we were not a Dentist kind of a neighborhood, let alone a Dentist, Dentist kind neighborhood.  Fathers  (and some mothers) worked at the Naval Base, or the Safeway, or the gas station, some ventured into DC and worked at places like the FBI.  How was a Dentist going to like it here in South Hampton Village? 

We need not have worried.  Although I (with my flair for drama) likened the Gigueres to F. Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald, they settled in quite nicely.  They lived in the house and Dr. G. set up his office and began to see patients.  It was the most significant event of that year and for some years to come.  (And no doubt written up in the Charles County Leaf…)

I believe Joan Hardy, who lived in the house that would eventually be Mama Sally’s, was the first kid I knew to have an actual dental appointment.  I was able to get the full scoop on this Dr. Phil, as the kids called him.  She was quite smug as we settled down behind the Rhododendrons where we could easily spy on the coming & goings of the Dental Office. 

“How was it?”  I demanded, “Did it hurt?”  “Nope, not one bit,” reported Joan.  She proceeded to tell me about the little white paper bib they pinned on her and the shiny porcelain bowl next to the dental chair that had a constant stream of cold, clear water.   “I spit in it.” she said.  “NO!” I exclaimed.   “Yes.”, she said,  “He told me to, right after he said we’re almost done here, and the rest of your tooth is gravy.’’  “GRAVY!”  I shouted. 

Now I was intrigued beyond words.  She had a tooth so bad it resembled gravy? “Let me see this tooth,” I said.  (Bossy, even then.).  Joan obligingly opened her mouth, where I spied a neat little silver dot in the middle of a perfectly normal looking molar.  I was impressed.  If this man, this Dentist, this Dr. Phil, could take a tooth the consistency of gravy and shape it into a normal looking tooth with a tiny speck of silver, I was ready to sign on. 

Many years later, when I was Dr. Giguere’s Dental Assistant, I heard him say many times, to many children and adults alike, “Okay, we’re almost done here and the rest is gravy…”

Now whether that is some New England or Vermont expression, I don’t know.  But, to two little girls growing up in Southern Maryland, gravy was a loose, watery, substance that you poured over potatoes and you certainly didn’t want your tooth to resemble anything remotely like that. 

Dr. G. and Rava settled in – they were our friends and neighbors.  Soon, along came Sally, closely followed by Suzy and even though they eventually moved out of South Hampton, they were still our’s.  We had claimed them and they were our’s -- forever. 

I mean after all, Blanche Neil worked for Dr. G, so did Gladys Harris, as did my Mom, Dottie Gates and eventually so did I.  And what a deal I got.  When I was a senior in high school he said, you work for me in the afternoons after school, learn the job of assisting and you can have a job every summer after college and during breaks.  Seemed like a good deal to me. 



It was.  He was an incredible boss.  He was patient, kind, and generous and what I remember and appreciate most was, he treated me like an adult.  He was always doing favors for working folks, booking patients before regular hours.  Of course, being young and eager to work, I’d come in early and work with him so these folks could get their dental work done and get to their jobs on time.  Many an early morning we’d stand in the kitchen of the office drinking coffee and smoking  cigarettes  (Hey, it was the 70s!).   He’d talk to me, ask me about school, who I was dating, where I planned to transfer after I got an Associate Degree. He told me about his under graduate work at the University of NC at Chapel Hill and about staying up all night to study at the Tufts’dental school.  He was always straightforward with me about working hard and finishing school. 

Last summer, after not seeing him for some years, my sister and I drove down and spent an afternoon with him, Rava and Sally. 
There were so many things I wanted to be sure I told him, especially how much I appreciated all he did for me.   Things like, “ Who gives a 19 year old college student their family car to drive for a week while they are on vacation? Who goes to see a 3-hour production of a 19th Century George Bernard Shaw play just because I happened to be in it?  Who agrees to be photographed for a brochure for a college program on Medical/Dental Secretaries and turns the office over to photographers for an afternoon?  Who keeps an eye on your aging parents and gives your Dad plenty of handyman jobs to keep him engaged and busy?  Who was there when your own parents die, within two months of each other, mourning along with you?  Dr. G. was and I thanked him. 

And I am here again today, to thank him again, and to say to his lovely wife, his daughters, their spouses, his grandson, his granddaughters and everyone here, he did a lot for all of us, and he had a wonderful life!  And I’ll just say,  we are almost done here, Dr. Philip E. Giguere, and for you -- the rest is Gravy.

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